Hello there BB’s! So
in thinking about Valentine’s Day this month and a blog that I’m doing over at
Middle Places, I am writing about BB love.
I started thinking about this, because I am writing about how my hubby
and I (RE)kindle (Middle Places’ monthly theme) on a daily basis. Well, BB’s
aren’t any different!
My BB is my family.
And her family is my family. And
the BB army is my family. But for it all
to work, God has to be central. BB
marriages come next (that means the BB’s and their men) and then PBB’s and then
BB’s. God declared all the first truths…
I added in the BB part of course.
But peeps, it’s true.
God has to be first or we lose sight of the other relationships. And the BB relationship is then in
danger. So, for over three years, we
have committed to a few truths. We have
not strayed from these even while dealing with a whole slew of sneaky snake
battles. Sure, we’ve messed up. Sheesh, we aren’t perfect, but we always come
back to these basics. It’s all about the
little things, peeps. That’s what keeps
the tutus blowin’ in the right direction.
So here they are I no particular order…
“Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Matthew 19:19
·
God tells us to love our neighbor as
ourselves. I think “getting in people’s
shoes” helps us do this. That’s how our
BB journey began, so we started on a good foundation. I didn’t just seek to tell her MY story, I
wanted and needed to hear and learn about hers.
How does this help? Well I, for
one, am more considerate (and look peeps, I’m not most the time). I think before I speak. I truly treat my BB as I’d want to be
treated. And it’s tough. It takes work.
·
Putting the other person first. It’s like the dang chip and dale chipmunks
occasionally… “You go first, no you go first, no you, no after you.” It’s not about being robotic about it either…
it’s about a desire to put each other’s needs before our own. We feel bad for griping sometimes, because
maybe the other person is having a hard day.
We make choices about what and where we go by thinking of each other
first.
·
Drop the superficial. We, BB’s, ain’t got time for that. Back to keeping God central. Are we doing this silliness (whatever it may
be) fo show or fo realz? Is this for
peeps to see our ridiculousness? Or is
this for peeps to see the crazy shiny drop of joy God put deep down in our BB
hearts?
·
Having each other’s back. There isn’t any truer love than someone that
would lay down their life for his friend.
God’s word yet again. And a BB
abides by this. To hurt one is to hurt
the other. No question about it.
“Greater love has no man than
this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”
John 15:13
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We give each other prayer requests. And we pray for them. And we have a safe friendship in that we know
the other person is not using these prayer requests as possible innocent
gossip. Ladies, this is a biggie! And so easy to accidently slip and do!
·
We provide a place of accountability. This is tougher than you think. It requires love and lack of judgment. It requires honesty on BOTH ends. Not just the person asking to be held
accountable. The other person has to be
brave and kind and loving and tactful enough to be able to call the BB out if
needed.
·
BB’s gotta keep things in perspective. Life happens.
God happens. BB’s have been through a mess already, so we know that
things just sometimes happen. We have to
step back and look at the bigger picture and process what the other BB’s heart
needs right then. Cause it ain't and never will be all about us!
As iron sharpens iron, as on man sharpens another.
Proverbs
27:17
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We honor each other’s strengths. As we all know, our strengths can often be
our weaknesses. BB’s got that, so we try
to sharpen each other. Iron sharpens iron,
BBs. And funny enough, as you sharpen
that strength, you become more and more aware of how it can be used as a
weakness.
·
Be first to apologize. Always.
That is all. Do it.
We’ve all read 1 Corinthians 13:4 a billion times, but read
it again. It is NOT just for couples,
BBs. It’s for you and me and my
friendship with my BB and my friendship with the dang mailman. It’s for the BB army to use on a daily basis.
XOXO! We hope you
have a Happy BB-tine’s month!
Love is patient.
Love
is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not
boast,
it is not proud.
It is not rude,
it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered,
it keeps no records of
wrong.
Love does not delight in evil but
rejoices with the truth.
It always
protects,
always trusts,
always hopes,
always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
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